One of the greatest headaches of many young ladies in relationship is the issue of sex. While they find themselves entangled in love, they also would not want to offend God by fornicating.
Meanwhile, most young men of today are always demanding sex before marriage as a proof of love. If a lady denies her boyfriend (fiance) sex, he tends to think she either does not love him or she is seeing another guy. And this throws the
lady into so much confusion. She genuinely loves the guy but wouldn't want to give in to sex. If she denies him, she may lose him and if she gives in too she disobeys God. Sorry to our ladies.
Gentleman, please know that it is absolutely a lie from the pit of hell that if your fiancee does not give you sex it shows she doesn't love you.
How can you use sex as a LOVEOMETRE? Have you never slept with ladies you didn't truly love? If you haven't then let me tell you that many people are having sex with people they never love. And the men are themselves the worst culprits.
If sex is a proof of love then we have to conclude that prostitutes love all the men they sleep with.
If sex is a proof of love then we have to go about sleeping with our best friends and even family members to show how deeply we love them.
Even married couples, do not have sex to prove their love. They rather have sex because sex is part of marriage and it is meant for both procreation and recreation - child birth and enjoyment. Don't you know that there are married couples who are not genuinely in love but they still have sex as a matter of duty or just for cover-ups?
Surely, sex plays a major role in love affairs. But Ecclesiastes 3:1 says, "For everything there is a season..." It is never the right season to have sex in a relationship. This is because sex is a blood covenant between husband and wife not boyfriend
and girlfriend. Genesis 4:1 says, "Adam knew his wife". It does not say "Adam knew his girlfriend".
Stop going that far with the lady. If you want to know about a woman's love for you sex is never the answer. Leave her alone to serve God right for your own sake if you truly want to marry her.
Song of Songs 2:7 says, "I charge you, O
daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelle...that you AWAKEN NOT LOVE UNTIL IT IS TIME".
The gazelle is a very swift animal. It runs at least 96 km per hour. Bible compares romance to the gazelle. If you start romance at the wrong time you may crush because you will not be able to stop it from running your life at top speed. So until you are married, don't AWAKEN LOVE. Sex
has been the main reason for most broken hearts and disappointments.
Sex is called love-making because it involves the body, soul and spirit. Do you want your soul and spirit to be tied to somebody who is not married
to you? Can you stand the consequences, Mr. Young Man! Hear the Bible:
"O my son, O son of my womb, O son of my vows,
DO NOT SPEND YOUR STRENGTH ON WOMEN, YOUR VIGOUR ON THOSE WHO Destroy KINGS." (Proverbs 31:2) Sex before marriage can destroy you, even your
Christian life. The funny thing is some
Brothers in Christ even worry the
Sisters in Christ for sex. So God says, "My
son...son of my vow". You are a son of God so don't waste your energy on women. You should rather be teaching her chastity and help her serve God well.
Seeking love from sex is like looking for Jesus in an empty tomb. Take it easy. When you marry you will be fed up with sex. Your wife will be chasing you with it and you will be running away,
saying, "Oh I'm tired, why?". Take time okay, Wait patiently. It will soon be laid at
your doorstep and you will notice how stupid it is to chase sex when you are not married.
If you want a woman to prove her love to you, allow her some space to be herself. Do not force your will on her or control her. Her love, by nature, will push her to do things that will signal to you that you are her top priority. She will be ready to marry you, than just have fun with you.
She will not be interested in you showering things on her but rather, she would want both of you to set your life and future right. She will support your dreams and visions and help you build up your Christian life. In fact, she will exhibit the spirit of humility and you will also discover she is
a precious jewel in a glass jar, reserved for you alone. So from today, even if she herself brings sex, tell her..."Do not awaken love until it is time." And if you guys love each other, plan about marrying and submit your plans to God. He will bless it and
put you two together as one.. Ladies...you should also read before sending to him
I wish u read all to the last.....our ladies are dying in the hands of some unmerciful men.
Sex has turned many ladies into a mystery of thinking what they feel for a particular guy is true love. You meet a guy, he takes you out; He had a great sex with you, it was like heaven to you. He makes you feel happy because you enjoyed him so much
you start assuming both of you are meant to be together as husband & wife.
You start dreaming of your future with him
while he's just having fun. Your feelings for him has blindfolded you from seeing things from the reality point of view. You find yourself infatuated with him just because you don't want to feel used & dumped.
Sometimes you need to sit down & ask yourself; what do i really love about this guy?
Do I see Christ in him? Is he a guy I can boldly take to my pastor? Can I introduce him as my husband to people who
are responsible? You know the guy is not
capable of being a good husband & father; yet you want to kill yourself because of him. But sometimes you need to differentiate between what you just feel and what you really deserve.
Don't start dreaming of your future with a guy who is just catching his fun. Don't attach a permanent feeling to a temporal person. Don't open up your heart to
a guy who doesn't open his bible. Stop chasing after a guy who doesn't chase after God.
Look, Maybe as a lady your lifestyle is not
pleasing to God, today is your day of salvation. Don't wait till when you marry & divorce before you realize you need Jesus. You don't have to wait till when you become a single mother before you aspire to
be an evangelist.
Give your life to Jesus now and He will give
you a man who will take care of you. You cannot receive anything from God until you first receive His only Son because Jesus is everything that God has given for you.